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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This isn't about answering a question.  It's about figuring out how to get your parents' needs met, everyone doing their part and everyone knowing what they can expect from the others.  It is not fair to be vague or not to provide a schedule or a list of things they can expect you to take care of.  Throwing money at it isn't enough, especially if you are in better financial shape than your siblings.

In my family two of us lived far away and three lived in the same town.  Also I had some SILs who lived in the town.  My sibling who didn't live near, didn't help at all.  We knew he wouldn't and it was better that we knew even if it was a jerk thing to do.  I took care of everything financial - making sure insurance was up to date, medical bills paid, taxes done, etc.  I also took care of everything medical - making sure appointments were set, rides were arranged, that information was conveyed to the doctors (they didn't talk to me, but did take information from me), etc.  And, I took care of all quality of life issues - I went up every 4-6 weeks and took her shopping, to the grocery store (she loved to go grocery shopping) and out to eat.  I took her on trips.  I picked her grandkids up for visits.  I took her to all events - weddings, funerals, etc.  One of my siblings took care of all repairs and putting together anything that needed to be put together and also check ins at least weekly.  Another checked in daily and a third did all of the driving, which was huge because despite serious medical issues, my mom worked until her death.  One of them also took care of the groceries, but at this point, I don't remember which one anymore.  This worked for so many years because everything was covered and everyone knew what to expect.  If one of us could not fulfill our part, we arranged for another to cover it.  [/quote]

"Parent does not need around the clock care"[/quote]

Clearly neither did mine since my mom worked until the day of her death.  [/quote]

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