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[quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years. He's 39 and I'm 33. He was previously married, but they have been divorced for 5 years. However, he has never completely moved on from her, and it has caused lots of problems for us. In the beginning of our relationship (for the first year, really..), he was still meeting with her weekly for dinner and drinks. He was seeing her regularly. I told him I was very uncomfortable with this and felt as though it was detrimental to our relationship. He claims he stopped seeing her at that point. He still continued to use her library card, Netflix account, had many of her things still scattered around the house, etc. In short, it felt like there was always another person in the relationship, and it felt like she wasn't ever really gone.

To make a long story short, I've had a two conversations with him over the past 6 months or so about his phone use. He was very clingy to his phone, texting often (he's not a big texter), and taking it with him to the bathroom/carrying it with him when he immediately woke up. I asked what was up, and if he was talking to her. Both times, he swore up and down they had no contact-- that he's chatting with friends. I asked him if that was the case, to please be more cognizant of how it looks to me.

Yesterday, he was showing me something on his phone and a text from her popped up. All he said was "Sorry..." and pretty much didn't touch his phone for the rest of the night. I haven't said anything about it because I've been so hurt and angry. I feel like he's made the calculus that maintaining a relationship with her is worth of the cost of the damage it does to our relationship. We had been discussing marriage and future plans, and now I just don't know. I feel like he's been lying to me, and that she won't ever be fully gone.

I want to say something to him today, but I'm really bad at confrontation. Can you guys help me come up with a good way to start this discussion? Thank you.[/quote]

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