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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think my first reaction would be to return the gift. But then I would want to teach her a lesson not based on anger or denial. What if you put it away for a few days and talked about it instead. Tell her how you felt excited to pick it out for her and your feelings were hurt when she reacted that way. Talk to her about how that might feel if she said it in front of a friend or a grandma. Ask her to put herself in your shoes. Empathy is a long road for some kids—this might be a good thing to talk about...and then in a few days she gets the gift and you tell her you’re proud she was patient.[/quote]

Bull.  By age ,7 she should have developed some sense of decorum.  Giving her the gift days later is still condoning her behavior.[/quote]

7 year olds aren’t perfect. Sometimes decorum and manners take practice. You can either do that with anger and shame...or you can turn it into a lesson in empathy. I’m not against taking things away as a consequence, but if this is a first time thing, why not try this first? If she’s constantly rude about gifts, sure take something away. But op didn’t say this is a common thing for her dd. Taking the gift away is the easy way out. You don’t have to deal with a discussion. Just “you were rude, you made a mistake, better luck next time”. Taking the time to talk, have a discussion, think about WHY you shouldn’t be rude when you’re getting a gift—-will pay off in the long run for not just this situation, but many situations. [/quote]

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