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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You guys need therapy.  First find a good child psychologist and see him/her without the kids.  Get on exactly the same page with each other on how to parent your kids.  A blueprint you both agree to is honestly the only answer.

It only gets harder, OP.  You must be a united front. [/quote]

It's not that we don't agree.  It's just the plan seems to go out the window as soon as the crying starts.[/quote]

That’s why you need a therapist.  Someone for both of you to be accountable to and someone to give your wife coping mechanisms and give you both code words and ways to remind the other of your plan.

You definitely need a third party, OP.  [/quote]

+1.  Odds are both of you would benefit from different tools, both for parenting your child and for relating to each other.  That's not a criticism of you personally, it's a recognition that none of us is perfect and we all have things we could do better.  To the extent you're right that she needs to do more work on this than you do, doing it as joint therapy rather than pushing her to get solo therapy may be less threatening and may feel less to her like you're blaming her for everything.  Also, if you go into therapy with an open mind, you might come to realize that you're contributing to the dynamic in certain ways as well.[/quote]

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