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[quote=Anonymous]A colleague of mine from a previous job of mine ended up staying in touch with me. Over time, we were meeting up for lunch since he worked/lived near my newer job and I could take longer lunches - we probably did this once every 3-4 months. Once when I was preggo with my second child, he also invited me to his house where his wife cooked us a delicious lunch. He and his family have come to our house for dinner.

Over time, we confided in each other about our family issues. He tends to be a very affectionate guy and one of the types that always tries to make everyone around him. He has complained to me a lot about his wife’s family and how they meddle in his business and some of his struggles with his wife not being able to create boundaries. In turn, I’ve shared my struggles with my in-laws. I love my husband and I don’t think I’ve ever given him the indication that I’m unhappy. (I’m very happy with my husband.)

Over the last two years, sometimes when we’re going out to lunch during the workday. I ask him to bring his wife. (I like what I know of her so far and since she doesn’t work, I figured she would enjoy the group outing. He brushes off my request all of the time. Me and him have dined together at least a dozen times (and within 3 miles of where he/wife live.)

Well, the last time we had lunch together, he gave me a hug as we were departing, and then kissed me on the forehead. I was horrified. We both come from a culture where affection between males and females who are not married is frowned upon. I used to shrug off the hug because I felt like he was one of those hugging types. But this weird forehead kiss felt like it crossed the line.

I have disengaged with him since this incident a couple of months ago. I respond to Happy Birthday texts and if we happen to see each other in a public place (ie temple of grocery store), I’m cordial.

A couple of questions:

1) What do you make of this situation?
2) Should I confront him?
3) Should I tell my husband what happened?

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