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[quote=Anonymous]I was diagnosed as an adult but I was not yet married and I did not have a child. I choose to take medication, ritalin and wellbutrin, until I completed my PhD. I no longer take any medication. I did talk to my Physician about it recently and she said that there was no diagnosis on my current record. I would need to go see someone for a new evaluation.

Does it influence my parenting? Probably. I have moments were I snap too quickly. I do apologize when that happens and try to be less snappy. I can be forgetful, but I have learned to set lots of reminders (I love Alexa) and timers. I have learned to put things in a specific place so I don't lose things, and remind my DS and DH that this would be useful for them as well.

My DH does a fair amount of the school work because DS does not have ADHD or LDs and learns more like DH does. It is actually hard for me to accept. DH is able to explain things in a way that makes more sense for DS but I would love to be able to be the go too parent for these things. As a positive, DS understands that I am capable, bright, and productive even though I sometimes struggle reading to him (dylsexia). It has been humbling reading to DS. I am able to read quickly and effectively but I do read using context to figure out that the word I thought I had read could not be the right word, so it has to be a different word. Reading to a child, I have to read every word and the number of mistakes as words/letters are moving or reversing or whatever they do has been a struggle. We have used those instances to discuss how people learn differently and react differently and that is ok.  DS knows it is ok to point out when I make a mistake in a kind voice, just like we do with him.

My experience with medication was that it"made" me a very different person. I was far more productive and far more focused. I got a lot more work done and made huge advances in my research. My friends, fellow grad students and friends from college and high school, all noted the increased productivity. They also noted the loss of spontaneity and impulse decisions. Some of that was positive, it allowed me to focus, and some of that was negative, I was less likely to go out and do things on the fly. I was less goofy and, well, fun. It was hard to find a medium where my focus was improved but I was still willing to drop something to go out and play ultimate Frisbee or go to the bar. It was almost like I was in the hyper focus mode of ADHD but on a permanent basis.  [/quote]

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