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[quote=Anonymous]We live next door to a family that I have quietly envied since they moved in five years ago.
They have kids my children's age.
The wife is perfect: gorgeous, friendly, successful, Manhattan-bred. She works for herself, so she's at home a lot, and also has a trust fund (which I learned by Googling her maiden name and learning about her family...and NYT wedding coverage...).
Her husband is this super down-to-earth but Ivy League guy. Very affable. They are just a Golden Couple. They seem to have everything.
The issue is mainly with my daughter: Their kids are popular and outgoing. Mine are shy and more introverted. Lately the girl next door has been including and then excluding my own daughter -- drawing her into the circle but then cattily turning her out. It breaks my heart. She will ask her over, then have another girl over too and they'll ignore her. My daughter rubs over there like a puppy.
Meanwhile the parents just seem to have this picture-perfect life: fancy jobs, money, summer house, looks, etc. And they're not fake; I believe they truly are happy. And they are not snobby.
But the issue with my daughter is pushing me over the edge. I know the envy is silly and I am in therapy about it. I talk about it a lot and am working on ways to feel better about my own life. But now it's affecting my kid. She wants this girl's approval so much, lives or dies by whether she includes her in things, sees her playing next door with other girls and feels left out, etc.

I encourage her own interests and friendships, but inside it's eating me up. I say NOTHING to my kid bc I don't want my own envy issues getting to her, so I vent to DH and therapist and DH doesn't get it. I would like to move and just not deal with the Perfect Family any longer. DH thinks that's absolutely insane.
Help?[/quote]

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