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[quote=Anonymous]OP, the problem here is that this is an issue that has bothered you for a while. The requested time off for her honeymoon only bothers you because you feel taken advantage of for these other time where she has left early or taken the odd day off. Please don't force a confrontation over it for her honeymoon by choosing #2 or #3. It will poison your relationship.

If you like her as your nanny and want to keep her, just pay it. Maybe get her a less extravagant wedding gift than you might otherwise, but don't tell her specifically that you consider the PTO to be a gift.

Then separately, set up a meeting to discuss 2021 scheduling, specifically time off. At that meeting, let her know that you want to make sure you are on the same page with regards to PTO. Be clear about your expectations. Maybe you need to adjust expectations -- it sounds like it's hard for her to be limited to only 5 days of PTO that are on her chosen schedule. Maybe you could allow her more flexibility with scheduling as long as she gives you plenty of advanced notice, or doesn't conflict with certain parts of your family's schedule. Or maybe your expectations are fine and you just need to be more clear. But it's clear that right now you guys are not on the same page and haven't been for a while. Better to deal with it when the stakes are lower and not right before her wedding/honeymoon.[/quote]

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