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[quote=Anonymous]DH & I both are not handy, and we pay for others to do our car maintenance & repair & house repair & maintenance (incl. mow the lawn). And, we don't have any indoor plant or outdoor plants (except grass & bushes). DH does not do any outdoor activities, no camping, no fishing, no skiing, no hiking, no biking (he can bike), no swimming(no swimming) even before covid time. He does not take kids to do anything outdoorsy at all. DH grows up here, and he does not even know how to do oil change or take care of flat tire.  He says that FIL never knows & never teaches him how to do any repair & maintenance. I am a petite woman that grew up in a city from other country, and I don't need to & don't know how to do many things at all.  We have a lawn mower, but DH does not want to mow the lawn, so he pays for service. I always ask DH to take kids outdoor to do some outdoorsy thing even before covid time, and it often ends up me taking 2 kids outdoor walking or go to playground while he stays home to relax by himself.

Unfortunately, it is sad the I could be called the "handyman" of my family because I am the one trimming bushes, placing ant bites around the house, spray pesticides around the house, change air filter & sometimes look at youtube videos trying to do some easy diy fixes before seeking out services. I am getting worried that my kids will never get the opportunities to be exposed or to any of those things I mention above from us as parents. I am a bit jealous of my friends posting pictures of their gardening harvest, hiking/biking picture etc. as a family, well, it is mostly the husband effort to make it happen. My girlfriends just post the pictures. DH is not concerned at all because he says our kids can always pay for the services instead of doing themselves, meet friends of same interest to learn & do things together or pay someone to teach them when they get older.  :(  That is sad & sucks.

My kids are still young (5 & 2), but I am thinking ahead. Any suggestions for me how to teach or show kids all of the things above over years since I don't know how to do any of those at all? I cannot bike/swim/ski, and I don't have green thumb. Well, I don't have much skill set, except I can draw/paint/do some crafts/take photo/do some simple science activities. I am willing to learn if they are not too difficult. I sometimes watch diy youtube videos, and I enjoy watch them. Does that mean as DH says,  I can only pay someone to teach/show them when they get older? For some parents that knows so many life skills, where do you learn that from other than from your parents?[/quote]

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