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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Having had sexual abuse in my own family, I think this behavior gets normalized. Siblings of the abusers have a different relationship with them and fond memories. It also creates a lot of family drama to not attend holidays, etc. I know in my own family, the abuser is allowed to come to all holidays because he "needs the support". The rest of us can choose whether to be around him or not. If we choose not, we are ruining the holiday and abandoning the family.[/quote]

This.

My H told his family of the abuse and we said we would not come to any family events with the.abuser.

His aunt who was abused by my H s abusers father told him that he needed to put the needs of the family 1st.and his actions were fracturing the family.

Another "aunt" said we were weak because everybody has been abused in one way or another and we needed to deal.

The "normal" educated cousins who have children say we can't expect our mom to have family events without her brother and his son. They think they can "keep an eye on their kids" and they are safe from.abuse.

We were.told that the abuser was not coming to a fAmily event ... We drove 3 hours to it and when we walked in they had "tricked us" ...he was there and they thought we would never just leave and drive 3 more hours home.

We have not seen his family since.[/quote]

Similar story in my DH’ family.  We set boundaries, they actively thwarted them.  And we aren’t good Christians because we haven’t forgiven the abusers.

No contact for 10 years- best decision ever.[/quote]

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