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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would tell her that I care about her and would like to help with whatever is causing her distress.[/quote]

Same.  Our house rule is courtesy is owed, respect is earned, and love is given.  She may not feel her mother is worthy of respect right now (like many teens feel), but she is owed courtesy.  And that includes learning how to manage difficult and angry conversations without cursing.[/quote]

Yes.  [b]And the underlying reason (whether it is teen mental illness, or the substance of their disagreement) may be far more important to address than the cursing[/b], which is merely a symptom of something being wrong.  Just telling her to stop it is taking the easy way out.  Be a good parent and deal with the real issues.[/quote]

FFS, why does everything have to be a Freudian exercise and a serious problem? It is very possible the girl is just testing boundaries and thinks she's all grown up because she knows how to curse.  It's not like she is cutting up small animals.

OP, the bigger issue here is maintaining YOUR boundaries. As a stepmother who tries to intervene you will be viewed badly no matter how right you are.  This is the role of the bio parent, meaning her father should be the one taking the reins on this. 
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