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[quote=Anonymous]I don't know where to start as I'm still processing my feelings about this. My son and I whom are both AA live on capitol hill. he is an only child. We went to the  park today and ran into another little AA boy along with this grandmother. The little boy, being 1 year older than my child was eager to play. It made me super happy not only because my son made a fast friend, but also connected with a child of color in his age range which is sparse on this block. All theses elements are very rare around here-so it felt good to make this connection.   They got along so well that I introduced myself to the grandmother hoping to do a play date again. She gave me the cold shoulder. As we were leaving the other child asked if we could 'call him' and 'come visit him at his house' and 'can we come back to the park to play again'.  I told him to check if his grandmother was okay with us giving him a call.  My son and this little boy walked hand in hand -yes literally-to the grandmother asking for permission to hang out again and the grandmother said she forgot her phone number.  Basically this wouldn't happen and I wasn't going to force it no matter what.  I called my mom to run down what occurred and she called it likely a blessing in disguise and all  skin folk ain't my kinfolk (for the people in the back-just because you share the same race or ethnicity doesn't mean your values are the same or the intentions are the same).

I think i feel a bunch of things: rejection from the grandmother, the exasperation of making friends with other families and pairing them with my child, only for relationships to not be maintained. my incessant need to have him exposed to other groups of people besides white people, and  just trying to bring back any sense of normalcy. have any othere parents dealt with this? how do I manage my emotions?  As I type this, my son is asking me about the other little boy.

I'd like to note-we were all wearing masks. [/quote]

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