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[quote=Anonymous]OP I am a woman and I am not a poster that says you have an obligation to have sex with your husband. I'm not OMG or anyone who thinks your husband has a right to cheat on you if you don't have sex, just, disclaimer. I dislike all those posters!

Sex is important. Not just to men or just to women, but generally, sex is what makes him your husband and not your friend. And some people (I count myself as one of these people) do not feel romantically connected to their spouse without it. It is important to see this as the core issue. If your husband feels loved via sex, and you never have sex with him, he will feel less loved. That will grow. And if you never even try to fix it, the damage that your relationships suffers as a result will be partially your fault.

No one is owed sex, just like no one is owed anything. Gifts at the holidays, kind words, hugs, kisses at night, picking up chores, no one owes anyone any of that. But we do those things to show our spouse we love them. If you love your spouse and want to have a successful marriage, then you will see this as a cancer in your relationship. One that might not kill you in the short term but if left untreated will continue to grow.

Being a mom to three young kids is overwheming (I am right there with you!) but if you forget your marriage while your kids are young you run the risk of not being able to find it when they grow up.

If your husband is otherwise a jerk and there are reasons you don't want to have sex with him that have to do with major issues YOU have with the relationship, than that is just a different form of relationship cancer. Whether the cause is benign or insidious, it still needs to be confronted. [/quote]

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