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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm really missing our first who started college 2 weeks ago.  I'm resisting the urge to call or text but wonder what amount of calling/texting is typical?  And do you get involved at all regarding specific assignments (like, did you get that lab report done?) or are homework questions totally off limits?  I know answers vary, but looking for some sage advice.   [/quote]

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We text throughout the week...maybe 2-3 times a day (mostly initiated by her)...and Skype on Sundays.  Aside from general questions like "How do you like the classes and/or professors?" or "How is it going with the workload?"....we do not ask questions about specific assignments. [/quote]

Well that makes me feel a little better (and a little worse).  I send a text a day or every other day.  But DS is not a great communicator.  When he was in HS he'd really open up only at odd times (and certainly times of his choosing).  So the texting is very stiff.  I guess my trouble is that I can't get a good read on him.  I completely understand the he needs space, has to find out things for himself, etc., etc. but I also haven't reached a comfort level yet that he's settling in as he should be.

And btw, I went to college, too.  Knowing how parents/college kids communicated back then really has little bearing on today's communication.  [/quote]

Honestly, our texts are very light and tend to focus on more mundane stuff like you would communicate to a friend ("How did the dog do at the vet?" type stuff).  Given her personality, we knew going in that the information flow was going to be sporadic at best.  We made our peace with that before she left. We are very careful not to get into school stuff because that causes the shutdown.  We kind of take the position that she will figure most things out and, if not, she will call if there is a crisis.  The Skype calls tend to be short and light also.  It is just an opportunity for us all to lay eyes on each other for a minute or two.

Your last statement is very true.  It is funny, because I still communicate with her much more than I did with my folks when I was in college....and my mom never hesitates to point that out when I fuss about DD.  LOL!!   Back then, it was a sort call on Sunday evenings. [/quote]

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