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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand why once we get past the honeymoon stage and get comfortable all we do is compete with each other and try and win. I see this so much with everyone. My husband and I will argue about who’s right and that’s pretty much the only arguments we have.  I will even go as far as researching evidence in texts or screenshots to prove I’m right.  It’s just one big competition! [/quote]

Not all couples are this way.

My husband and I are sometimes competitive, but it tends to either be about dumb stuff that doesn't really matter (like who can run a faster mile, or who has the best banana bread recipe), or about something that is triggering insecurity in one of us. For instance, he is sometimes competitive about parenting with me because our kids are still very much in the early "mommy is the favorite" stage and I know it sometimes hurts his feelings that they often prefer me for things like bedtimes or consoling them when they get hurt. But I don't take it personally when he does this and recognize it's coming from a good impulse (he wants his kids to love and trust him).

I think if you are keeping it light, competition doesn't have to be a bad thing. But if you are keeping score on everything, or if one of you gets mad when you "lose", it's an indication that you have trust and communication issues and you should probably find a way to address it.[/quote]

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