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[quote=Anonymous]I don’t have practical advice but get where you are coming from OP. My sister has gained a ton of weight in the past year and I really worry about her and wish there is something I could do to help. She’s clearly unhappy and unable or unwilling to participate in things that once brought her joy. She has health issues that are both exacerbated by the weight and contribute to its gain. It’s not the weight per se that is upsetting, but That she clearly is putting herself last to her own physical and emotional detriment — a trait that goes hand in hand with her caring personality but which has gotten kind of extreme. I tred very carefully. We’ve never really spoken about weight (growing up she was the effortlessly  skinny sister and I was the heavier one Who had to work to stay a healthy weight - which ironically I think helped me develop healthier habits). My instinct is to encourage her to do more for herself (set boundaries with kids and husband, who she bends over backwards for, hire a cleaner when clearly they have enough money to do so, go easy on herself on job-guilt that she isn’t doing enough to help the vulnerable populations she serves) but  I’m sensitive that anything I say there might also come across as a criticism. Clearly she’s not in a good place right now and it’s hard as her sister to watch from the sidelines and not know how I can help.[/quote]

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