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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not condescending. Sounds like you might be carrying a ton of your own baggage/insecurities.

I’m proud of many of my friends for different things. [/quote]

No baggage, I'm just accustomed to hearing it or saying it from a place of authority. From a peer, it comes across as patronizing. "I'm so happy for you!"  seems good enough to convey the congratulatory message of glee. [/quote]

NP. But the message isn't "glee." Being proud of someone is not teally the same thing as being happy for them. The two things of course can coexist but the terms refer to different things. I'm proud my friend stood up for her beliefs when she was challenged for going to a protest. I'm happy same friend was able to see her mom at her sick mom's (entirely virtual!) birthday party. Not the greatest examples, but you get the point--? I might be both proud and happy if my spouse gets a promotion -- proud of the fact the hard work got recognized, happy that spouse is pleased. Etc. [/quote]

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