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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.

Thank you so much. I’ll be contacting the pediatrician tomorrow to get this ball rolling.

It’s very hard breaking to see your kid struggle.. and maybe I’m being overly critical but it’s hard not to stress out about it.

According to DH, he was also that way for a bit. He was the youngest in his class and didn’t really start caring about grades, participation etc until 4-5th grade. [/quote]

it does start to even out after 3rd grade - lots of stressed parents trying to help kids bring one side up  (math or language) and then boom - it kind of falls into place. Often its a developmental milestone the kid has to pass in order for the schoolwork to make sense to them.

You're doing everything you can so that's great. Try not to stress the kid out with your own worries too. good luck.[/quote]

The speech issues the OP is describing has nothing to do with being the youngest or oldest in the class.  It signals possible learning difficulties which has nothing to do with caring about grades or how smart a kid is.

Op, I don’t know if you should hold her back or not.  From a practical standpoint, this would be the time to do it.  My kid went to a private school that ran through 2 and they occasionally recommended kids repeat 1st or 2nd.  This helps if a child is strictly struggling with maturity, but not necessarily helpful if struggling with something like a learning disability.

For example, pre-pandemic, the lab school doesn’t go by grades in the lower school.  They teach math and reading in groups 2s or 3s and teach everything else as small classes.  Kids move on at different times.

Public schools used to have kids repeat at the 5th grade when it was basically falling apart for them academically.  These days b/c of overcrowded schools, they usually won’t let kids repeat.  People in the dmv get really hung up on repeating grades b/c this practice is abused at private schools for the sake of having bigger athletes on the lacrosse field.

Given the expressive language struggles you described, I would really urge you to get a neuropsych evaluation.  daisy pascualvaca in dc is well respected.  Children’s hospital or Kennedy krieger also do this.  I would lean toward repeating 2, getting her a full evaluation and working with a SLP.  Her pragmatic skills could hurt her socially.  This way she’d have a little extra time to blossom.
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