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[quote=Anonymous]Reading some of Henry Cloud's work on Boundaries may be helpful.

My mom is also quite negative and dramatic. I have had to learn to detach from her/her issues, only engage when i have the energy to not be sucked into that tidal wave, and accept who she is but not let it weigh me down.

There is a strategy I've heard recommended for use with teenagers being highly dramatic - the vast majority of your replies should be "Cool," "That sucks," or "Wow." Obviously that is oversimplified and you can't do that with serious conversations, but the day-to-day whining and complaining? Low engagement with set replies that don't require mental energy from you.

I've tried it with my mother when she is in one of her tizzies (which can last an hour or can last months and really be a phase) and it works BEAUTIFULLY. Especially over text. Even in person or on the phone, I would have thought it would seem uncaring but all she is doing is running her mouth to hear herself talk. I preserve my own energy, she kind of wears herself out, and it didn't become a bigger issue [/quote]

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