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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. So is my friend not supposed to have boundaries? Is she not supposed to protect herself financially? I care about her and her future and if I see she’s a raw deal, I’m going to bring it up. Don’t tell me you wouldn’t do the same! [/quote]

The thing is, from your vantage point, you are likely to only see the negatives, and not any of the positives.   Unless there's clear abuse or some egregious financial shenanigans. it's highly likely best for you to stay out of it. [/quote]

How do you think abuse starts? A lot of it begins with eroding someone’s boundaries and manipulation. I am not a stepparent but was a stepchild. My mom remarried and she embarrassed me by making demands on her new husband to pay for my college, books etc. She has borderline personality disorder and a very warped view of relationships. To me, I’m not this man’s responsibility and so, why should he pay for me? No surprise he divorced her and I insisted on paying my own way. I think it’s good to have clear boundaries in place when it comes to blended families so no one gets taken advantage of.[/quote]

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