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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We don’t have many rules - put shoes and clothes on before you go outside (or else they’d be out in their pajamas and underwear), only eating/drinking at the table,[b] no[/b] roughhousing or[b] toys on the main level of the house [/b](they have a playroom in the basement and a huge bedroom with a ton of toys in both), and wear your helmet and close toed shoes when you’re riding your bike or scooter - and they for the life of them cannot learn. They’re constantly doing something they’re not supposed to and constantly being punished/reminded/put in time out. Is there something I’m doing wrong?! They need constant attention and are constantly on the go I just can’t keep up. [/quote]

Kids have a need to be close to their parents, a rule like this is horrible.  I grew up with it, and I can tell you that I knew as a kid that my mom didn't want me around and it hurt.  I think that if you make your kids seem welcome in your house, they'd probably treat you better.  [/quote]

+1 this is an insane rule. My husband thought like this before we had kids. I quickly disposed him of this notion. My kids want to be near me and I don’t want to sit in a cold basement all day so therefore they have a toy chest upstairs. It was more elaborate for a long time when they were little but now it’s one you chest, a book case and some coloring books and crayons. We clean up every night and it isn’t a huge mess. [/quote]

I disagree.  We have the same rule for my same-aged kids.  It's not an issue.  We have a dog that will chew their toys so they know that anything left on that floor is free game for the dog or trash.  They don't remember all the time, but pretty close to it.  A quick reminder and they remedy it if it's up there.

Bike and scooter are taken away if they are riding without a helmet.  Taken away long enough to be meaningful.  Toys left on mail floor go in a bin and can be earned back.  Give them more responsibility and consequences.  It will be harder on your short term but better long run.[/quote]

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