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[quote=Anonymous]My mother has a personality disorder. If I had to guess, I think it’s borderline.

She has been hell bent on making the scapegoat sibling responsible for the golden child sibling going no contact. She invents the most bizarre stories every few months, and wants to scream at me (the 3rd sibling) about how the scapegoat is intentionally ruining her life. I have backed off of contact with her since she most recently refused to manage this behavior.

All of us siblings know the routine. We are all close with one another. We don’t ever fall for the BS, or the attempts to make us flying monkeys. I don’t understand why my mother keeps trying this failing tactic. I have tried just having a cordial relationship with her, but she seems to be unwilling or unable to stop making up these completely irrational stories up about my siblings. They’re so out there that they’re laughable. Her most recent one was the devil-worshipping scapegoat (sister) forced the golden child (brother) into prostitution, and that’s why he’s dead now. But, he’s alive and well. No one worships the devil. No one is a prostitute. I can almost understand her willingness to believe he’s dead. Maybe, that’s easier for her to swallow than accepting that she destroyed the relationship by abusing him, leading him to cut all contact. I do not understand the other crazy ideas.

I know I can make her aware of boundaries, and cut contact if she ignores them. Does anyone have experience with this kind of behavior? It’s just so confusing. I don’t want to listen to the badmouthing and accusations. Is my only option to never speak to her again?[/quote]

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