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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We sort of did this. We each came from a two kid family so assumed we would have two kids, and having our first easily at age 32, we had plenty of time.

But after having one, we were sort of content. The pressure to have another did sort of come from the sibling thing. We did it, and don't regret it for a minute, she is now 8.

They are close sisters and we just adore our second.

That said, I have a brother - we were pretty close growing up, and I absolutely adored him through my 20s. Then he started changing as we aged a bit more - and I have to say we are in our 40s now and not so close. I still love him, but we aren't close. That said, he married someone completely awesome and my SIL and I are extremely close. Go figure. So in childhood I had him, in adulthood, I have her![/quote]

This side story about your brother is really interesting.  I would have thought the SIL would have brought you closer to brother again.  Just curious why that didn’t happen?[/quote]

I love my brother, but no, it's still hard to be around him for long periods of time. My SIL can hang out for hours though. We have so much more in common. It's hard to explain, but my brother and I are just very different, and we see the world in different ways. My brother can be pretty judgmental, and my SIL is more laid back/accepting. They never had kids, but my brother has a lot of opinions about we raise ours :)

Anyway, he's a good uncle and I think he has a good heart, it's just hard to find common ground. It's a weird situation. My SIL and brother have had a lot of marriage troubles, but they have figured out how to live with their differences and they seem happy. I guess since I don't live with my brother and we only see other every few months because we don't live all that close, we haven't had to go through that period of working things out.[/quote]

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