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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m an Only and love being an only. I know too many people who have meh or horrible relationships with their siblings. And my parents are older and my Mom is having significant health issues. I’m so grateful that I don’t also have to be negotiating and checking with a sibling about what we should do.

There is no guarantee that your kids will get along. Have a another kid if you want another kid. Don’t do it for some rosy fantasy that your kids will have each other. Would you have this kid if you knew they would be at odds with each other for the rest of their lives? And that the relationship would only cause conflict in each other’s lives?

Read One and Only

https://smile.amazon.com/One-Only-Freedom-Having-Child/dp/1451626967/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=one+and+only+book&qid=1595773818&sr=8-3[/quote]

NP, parent of an only who has been trying to figure out if we really are "done." Thank you for this recommendation and sharing your experience as an adult only child. My husband and I both have siblings but are not close with any of them. We also have siblings on both sides who pose real difficulties for us now. We think our daughter would make a great big sister and we love parenting so we've definitely considered having another. But there is also something about the current arrangement that is so simple and easy. I can imagine the three of us really enjoying family life for many years without feeling like anyone is missing.

I can definitely attest to the fact that having siblings as an adult does not automatically mean you have built-in friends or that it will be easier to handle your parents aging and getting sick. For us it has been the opposite.[/quote]

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