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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH, bless his heart agrees to help out with a variety of things around the house. 
PIcking up milk, put gas in the car, water the plants etc etc but NEVER actually does any of it unless i remind him at the very least 3-4 times. I don't nag but something like:
M:  "Did you put gas in the car?"
DH: Oh, not yet
M: "Did you still want to or i will, i need it tomorrow"
DH: I will do it after supper
M: (after cooking supper and eating, getting ready for bed): Don't forget to get gas in the car
DH: Oh, i will do it first thing in the am, it is too late
M: (in teh am) DId you get gas
DH: Oh, going to do it now

I HATE having ask if something has been done. Why can't something just get done. 
He notices nothing. If he uses all of the milk he won't put it on the list or make sure we have more. He will just wait for it to magically appear or for me to ask if he will go get it. Same goes for everything. He doesn't get crabby if i ask or remind but i have just been doing things myself without even confering with him. Then he is like "Why didn't you ask me, i would have done it". I have explained to him that i can't count on him to do things iwhtout reminders and he says he is just forgetful and not to 'punish' him for it. By "punish' he means not ask for his help.

Is my spouse the only one like this? Anyone have luck at fixing it. I want a partnership with someone I can count on.[/quote]

Get executive functioning skills coaching for him ASAP and verbal communication therapy for you both. Mention all of these patterns up front, they should know what can work for someone like him. He needs to be open and do it.[/quote]

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