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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a very good friend who has a tendency many times not to ask reciprocal questions. For example, if you are texting each other and you ask how she is, she will give you a lot of detail in her response but about 70% of the time she doesn’t ask in turn how you are. I’ve never heard her ask other people about their job, although she loves to talk about her job and happily goes on at length if anyone asks about it. I’ve heard all about her kids’ school situation but she hasn’t asked what’s going on with mine (we live in different counties plus her kids go to private). I’ve asked how her extended family is doing in Covid times but she hasn’t asked about mine. And so on. At other times she will initiate a “how are you?” or sympathetically listen if I discuss something going in with me. We are in frequent contact and I know she cares about me and my family. She is a good person. But she has this kind of myopia and often just does not reciprocate or initiate or follow up.

She is from the Midwest. Is this a Midwest thing? Do midwesterners feel it’s nosy to initiate and if someone wants to share something they’ll proactively come out with it? My own feeling is that if someone doesn’t ask, they aren’t interested, and I’m used to having a more two-way dynamic when I’m communicating with someone. Thoughts?[/quote]

This is every self absorbed person in DC. You only know one person like this? How is that possible?  Can we be friends? I will happily ask how you are.[/quote]

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