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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a "he's smaller than you" crowd. I expect older children to be more mature/responsible even if the younger child instigates. If I had two kids and something like this happened, I'd tell the older kid not to do that, but then separately one-on-one would tell the younger kid that the older kid shouldn't have done it but there's a risk in poking the bear... That said I think I just have a strong negative reaction to any physical aggression, and if the younger kid shoved the older kid I"d tell them both not to use their hands to express their frustration. [/quote]
NOBODY should have to stand around and tolerate annoyances just because they are bigger. Are you also suggesting women should tolerate certain behavior because Boys Will Be Boys? Older children should not have to tolerate and take physical assaults from smaller children, either.[/quote]

PP you're responding to here. I don't believe it's appropriate to respond to annoyance by getting physical. I did not see the OP's reference to starting out as being 'physically' annoying, and thought that it was a case of being a pest and getting a physical response. In that case I see two problems: first, as I said shoving, etc. to show frustration is problematic to me; and second I"d expect the older child to be mature enough to walk away instead of retaliating in kind or escalating.  It's not remotely a 'boys will be boys' view and I have no idea how you would link the two concepts.[/quote]

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