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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She is always in our faces.  Prefers to kick and hit us for playtime.  We'll be reading books in bed and she just starts putting her feet in my face.  Her hands all over me.  We have a baby and she gets into his face so much he cries.  I tell her to stop and she gets more in his face.  Any advice?[/quote]

It could be sensory, attention-seeking, she is missing out on 1:1 physical and emotional connection. Kids learn if I do x, then I get y. Are you focusing on her or the baby when she gets in the babies face? Do you have to spend 1:1 time with her when you dole out punishment? Is she getting enough physical, creative, and mental play throughout the day? It could be excitement when she is getting to play. What do you say when she hits or kicks? We use "I will not let you hit/kick me". Deflect and block if it continues. If it escalates, then I say I see that you are having a hard time playing gentle. I need to take a break since you keep hitting me. We can play again when you can be gentle OR I ask - do you need a hug or some extra attention Larlo? It feels like you want my attention and are having a hard time saying so. Would you like a hug or cuddles?

You can also use Hands are not for hitting. Hands are for drawing, painting, and building stuff. I feel like you want to play with you hands today- do you want to play with playdoh or draw? Same with kicking. Feet are not for kicking. Kicking hurts. Lets use our feet and go outside with the ball or jump really high for 10 times in a row. Feet are for playing and jumping. How high can you jump?[/quote]

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