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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Explain to your kids that they have family obligations and they will feel very guilty when grandparents die and how much the grandparents love them and how lonely they are. Then force you kids to visit. Get it down to a routine - every other Sunday - and get them one of those “Life Story” books so the grandparents can tell them stories about their lives, childhoods, etc. [/quote] No, do not do this. Guilt is a terrible tool and they will resent you. Instead, make it a positive. It feels great to brighten someone's day. You always make them smile. Let's come up with a compromise that works. Pull for their positive traits rather than forcing them into something.People like to be recognized for being good and decent and it's a great lesson to experience the feeling of bringing someone joy. Guilt pulls for the negative-obligation, resentment, manipulation, passive aggressive, hatred of self and others, misery. [/quote]
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