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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My in-laws continue to practice what I consider to be risky behavior and not follow basic social distancing measures. It is making me crazy angry and resentful, and I'm wondering if anyone else is having these issues.

As an example, my MIL went somewhere to get her hair done during the stay at home order and then lied about it when I asked how her hair looked perfectly cut and highlighted (eventually she confessed). My FIL is planning to go back to his indoor gym 7 days a week when it opens. They are 72 and 76, respectively. Also, after repeated offers to do the grocery shopping for them to minimize their exposure (which they declined), my MIL told my sister-in-law that she had asked us to get groceries for her but we had said no - just a complete and utter lie.

When we are with them, only one of them will wear a mask, and rarely for the whole visit. They are both incapable of staying 6 feet away from others. The other day, I actually furiously brought out a measuring tape to show them what 6 feet looked like. I've managed to limit visits to the outdoors and about once every other week, but even so, when I with them, I am so uptight and snappy and just unpleasant to be around. Even if I start off happy, they inevitably do something that defies all guidance and pisses me off. My two year old truly understands "far away" better than they do.

I've tried explaining over the phone that they need to be more careful around us but the minute they see us it goes right out the window.  [b]I'm also pregnant and taking all of this very seriously. I'm not just trying to protect them, I'm trying to protect myself and my family, and I feel like they engage in riskier behavior than we do and it just feels so disrespectful.[/b] I'm getting mad just writing all of this down...

I've never been particularly close with them but this has just taken it to another level. My husband and I work full-time and while I've thought about just sending my daughter and him to their house for a couple hours without me, that is [b][i]my time[/i][/b] with [b][i]my kid[/b][/i] that I'd be giving up [b][i]for them[/b][/i]. I just can't do it. I hate having to share my precious time-off with them to begin with, which is unfortunately how I see time with them. I know it is good for them and good for my daughter (so long as no one gets infected), but when they so flagrantly do not abide by the basic rules, I just cannot see any good in visits with them.

Anyway, wondering if anyone has had these same issues or has any ideas or advice for me.

(As an FYI - my daughter is in a nanny share with other kids which is why the social distancing is needed).
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You're a hypocrite. You are sending your daughter to a nanny share with other kids (whose families may SAY they're social distancing, but you don't really know) and you're getting mad at your MIL for getting her hair done. I would not spend time with my MIL if she went to get her hair done (and this actually happened - she went to get her hair done and my husband said she is not welcome to see us for at least two weeks after that), but I'm also not sending my kid to a nanny share... Seriously, take a good hard look in the mirror. You think you're being more careful than them but you're not, so stop being so hypocritical.[/quote]

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