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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. We have sex 1-2 a week, which I wouldn't say is infrequent for being together for 20 years and having 3 kids.

The thing is, I often feel like we are more like "business partners"/best friends than we are lovers, if you know what I mean? I listen to the podcast Girls Gotta Eat a lot. The hosts are in their thirties and they talk about sex and relationships. They mostly focus on the dating end of relationships but the way they talk about it often makes me miss that period of life. They're always talking about how they want someone to "excite" them every day and "light them up."

We have sex because it feels good and there is an expectation that you need to be having sex at least once a week in order to have a strong marriage. But it's not like either of us is really dying to rip the other's clothes off anymore. He gets in that mood more often than me but it's not a daily thing for him either anymore.

Idk. We love each other and we love our family. We're comfortable together. We trust and respect each other. We talk a lot and remember to verbally appreciate small acts of kindness. But I wouldn't say he excites me anymore.

I don't think we're doing a good job of keeping the "spark" alive. We have really great sex but in between we're more like business partners dealing with our joint project which is our house and family.

Does anyone else relate to this? I feel like we're doing something wrong.[/quote]

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