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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I make sure DC knows that dad loves them and that they should go there. But thanks again for your enlightening, wonderful post.
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You need to stop doing this. The dad loves them part. Sounds like your child has a narcissist for a dad. Those symptoms and behaviors are common in kids with narcissist dads. If dad loved the child in any sort of meaningful way your child would not be feeling like this. Stop telling them this is love. It isn't. [/quote]

OK, so what's the solution here? i'm genuinely curious. [/quote]

If dad won't go to counseling with the child, then maybe you do? Or get some guidance from a counselor on how to deal with this. I agree with the PP. There's a line between encouraging a relationship with the other parent and the kid feeling pressure to acknowledge that the relationship is something it's not. I tend to think if you can come up with something more neutral that lets your child know that you empathize with him, but this is something that is not in your control that he might be able to cope better.

If the resistance continues, I'd consider taking it to court after a long period of documentation.  And I'd consider restricting visitation despite court order. I know you can't refuse visitation based on lack of support payments, but might be worth asking an attorney if you can bring it up if your ex sues to enforce visitation. I know some won't agree, but there's gotta be a reason the kid is so upset to go to the dad.

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Parent of the year... not.  You don't go against a court order and restrict visitation.  You child is behaving that way because they want to make you happy and they know you don't want them to go.[/quote]

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