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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DC doesn't want to go to dad. They have a very hard time being there, there are tantrums and drama when they go there and when they are back. I don't want to deny dad custody, but I think it'll be better for DC and us if there's less drama with the transition. The divorce is not new, but for the last year, DC has asked that they not go to dad at every visit.[b] There's corporal punishment there, which I think plays a role[/b], but no other obvious signs of abuse, DC sees a mental health professional who is aware. DC is in elementary school. I'm at a loss. I don't know if I should pursue a different schedule where DC spends most of their time with me, or if this is a phase. I in no way want to interfere with the relationship between them and dad, but it seems DC has lots of trouble loving and accepting dad and feel judged and hurt when there. Just let it be? Or try to modify schedule? Will judges care? At what point is the child's preference honored?

Follow up: if you are a child of divorce and this was you, are you happier that you had a choice to live where you wanted? Or do you wish your parents forced a 50/50 schedule? [/quote] You think??

As someone who grew up with this nonsense, kid has trouble loving dad and feels judged and hurt because dad hits kid as punishment. I'm serious, it's pretty hard to reconcile as a kid. Keep your kid away until / unless dad can learn  to do better.[/quote]

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