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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How have you done this?

I've found that these help: High expectations of behavior, especially respect for self and others, and for academic success. More support will need to be provided for kids with LD, ADHD, etc but challenging them to reach their full potential is essential. Structure and routine. Household responsibilities, ideally not linked to an allowance. Being empathetic towards your kid and expecting the same in return. These sound obvious, but I think they're very important, if not fundamental. Playing a sport or musical instrument is also great, if possible.
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People on here will fight me to no end on this, but I think these are crucial:

1-[b]The kids have to do lots of chores early (in life) and often. I[/b]t’s really not tiring and can be oddly relaxing. Watering the lawn, emptying and filling dishwasher, handling their own laundry, making meals, vacuuming, pulling the weeds, sweeping, cleaning their room.

2-The kids must get a frequent summer job at minimum by 8th/9th grade. If they are in a really intense travel sport by then perhaps don’t push it, but I really honestly (my husband disagreed) think working is better for the kids. I’d also nudge them to work at least one night/week during the school year, and I’d require it if they had no other ECs.

3-Your kids aren’t allowed to just say “I’m not inviting X kid to my gathering” without a reason if X kid is in the friend group, sport, or other. If they just don’t like X kid for no proved reason, they can’t leave X kid out or invite X kid at the last minute after everyone else was already invited. [/quote]

My young kids complain loudly about chores, but the are much happier and better regulated people when they have responsibilities and do them. If I back off chores for too long, they definitely get more disrespectful and grumpy.[/quote]

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