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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Never mention the friend to anyone again.  If a mutual friend brings her up only say that you haven't been in touch but hope she and her family are doing well.  I would not tell anyone other than my husband that we had fallen out.  If a friend repeated negative things she was saying about me I would say,  'Goodness, what a misunderstanding! I have to reach out and straighten this up' and then I never would make contact.  People will forget.[/quote]

^^Good advice. [/quote]

I agree - this is excellent advice. The basis of this is - do not escalate or provoke and by ignoring it and not referencing it you're dampening it down, you're not reacting. This is absolutely the best thing you can do. Its not easy but you can do it.

And by doing this, by removing yourself from the situation you are actually the one in the position of power, not her. I also agree that if she does escalate her behavior (unprovoked by you) keep an account of it, for your own safety to report at a later stage, but only if necessary.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know it can be devastating but remember - like all things, this too shall pass. [/quote]

You obviously have no experience with this.[/quote]

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