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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't move in. Tell him you've thought about it. Moving in with him and his roommates is a NO GO! You'll be the unofficial cook, toilet cleaner, cook and more. Wait another year for a ring then if he's still not sure, move on. [/quote]

Haha, no they wouldn't make me their servant! They have a rotating wheel of chores like roommates of my past had done. They cook together and share all their food, which is also something I am not willing to do.

Also edited to clarify that he "rents a room" meaning a third room in the house is rented out to a fourth housemate. So are three bedrooms - his, the other bedroom shared by the husband and wife, and a third bedroom rented out to a fourth roommate.

Ive brought this up to some other married or partnered friends and they seem to describe communal living like it's a normal part of young urban adulthood and shouldn't be a big deal, and that if I'm truly ready to  to commit in a partnership, I should be ready to share my space. But I don't want to. I'm extroverted during the day and I love being out and about and meeting people, but I am a total introvert at night/in the early morning and really don't want to share everything with other people.[/quote]
Most (not all!) people ready to commit in their 30s are willing to share their space with their SO, not other housemates. Your friends are not giving you good advice. Are they willing to live with 3 or 4 other people? Most people do not and would not.
Look, if the relationship progresses, get a place together with just the two of you. Get married and have kids if you both want. If he owns part of his current house, he can rent that out. Your not wanting to move into his house under current circumstances is the only sane approach.[/quote]

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