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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't imagine having a closed adoption. It would break my heart if DD didn't know anything about her origins or birthfamily. It is not a competition between birthfamily and adoptive family. If adoptive parents make it feel that way, they are bound to lose.[/quote]

This is how I feel.  He is just as much a part of them as us and I far prefer them in our life and knowing than to worry about the unknown for all of us - me worrying if they come back... and them worrying if he is ok.  Adoptions were done very differently way back when for many reasons but its so nice to have the option of open adoption and all the wonderful benefits from it.

Ultimately, it is the "child" who matters.  Are each set of parents important?  Absolutely, but at the end of the day, the child was placed for everyone's best interests and that child and their needs should be the focus.  As parents through adoption, you adopt knowing that there is a biological family out there and that just makes your child all the more special as there are more people to love them.[/quote]

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