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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thinking of adoption at some point... and would love to hear from others experiences with the process!
1. Did you already have kids?
2. Did you adopt privately through an agency or through the foster system?
3. How long did the process take?
4. What age was your child(ren) when you adopted?
5. How much did the adoption cost?
6. Anything you learned along the way that would be helpful to someone considering adoption or anything you did differently you would share?)[/quote]

1. no
2. private, not through agency
3. 5-6 years.  We were part of two agencies and a facility and they took our money/no baby
4.  newborn
5.  No idea.  Stopped counting - maybe $50-60K with all the agency and facilitator fees, attorney costs and private advertising but actual adoption was not expensive, maybe around $12K
6.  That the agencies, facilitators and attorneys can take your money, promise you a child and never give you one and there is absolutely no accountability.  Terrible ethics in the adoption community and its a business vs. helping kids get families.  Lots of shady things happening.  We were offered several buy-a-baby situations but declined as they were very very shady.  Talk directly to the birth parents and make sure they want this.  If you offer an open adoption, follow through.  We have an amazing relationship with birth mom's family and we all consider each other family.  We don't have the typical worries as they are so loving and supportive of us as we are them.  There were a lot of heartbreaks in the process and stick with it till the end.  Its ok to turn down situations you are not comfortable with.[/quote]

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