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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]as a tangent, OP, is your mom still alive and if so, did you tell her and what does she think?  did she add to the story now that you know who he is?[/quote]

I was wondering about this too. More information about him from mom May be useful [/quote]

She confirmed his name and said she felt my life would be better without him in it. She said she didn’t know of his death but ‘wasn’t surprised.’ Beyond that, I got no information. She also gave up 3 baby boys after having me (different fathers from mine). The one coworker of hers that knew all of this (babysat me during the births) said she got zero prenatal care during my pregnancy and went to a hospital that didn’t even have a l&d unit... coworker had to move her car. My mom told her she was planning to give me up for adoption, but then showed up with me at the office a couple months later. No one other than the coworker knew about my brothers until I found them on the dna site. My mom was in her 30s. She is obviously a very secretive person. While the rest of my family (her mom, sisters, etc) has embraced the long lost brothers, she doesn’t want to know anything about them. Long story short, I will not be getting any more information about my father from her either.[/quote]

I'm in the same boat as you without any info about my bio dad. I actually never asked my mom because I figure she doesn't know who he is. I have seen her hound family friends for money (she is a loser, yes) and I am sure if there any way of getting anything from the man who knocked her up, she would have definitely done so. I also don't want to give her any leverage over me so I don't want to ask. Not spoken to her for years and my life is fine the way it is. I did the 23andme kit too, but my roots are in East Asia so it was more of a long shot for me.[/quote]

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