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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. My son is fairly shy, especially around boys. So if we are at the playground together, he avoids him. But the other boy says hi and tries to get my so to play with him.  And my son usually hangs back.  If it were anyone else, I’d encourage him to say hi and go play with his classmate. But I don’t want to pressure him with this boy since he’s had a bad experience with him.[/quote]

Frankly I had to check the date of your posts, OP. I wondered if this was some thread from before March that had gotten resurrected.

Is your child still going to playgrounds right now and meeting up with kids who just happen to be there at the same time, and playing with whoever's around? I find that hard to take in, considering, you know, pandemic and all.

The "but let them plaaaaay!" brigade will come out in force, but look around. Many posts on DCUM about whether even to have one on one playdates for kids with children whose families are asked in detail about their distancing habits and who's in their "bubble." In that current environment, if you and others are going to playgrounds like it's pre-covid, that seems off base.

As for the other boy, the pandemic is your opportunity to distract your son and ensure he doesn't run into this kid randomly. If your son talks about the boy out of the blue and hasn't seen him in a while, distract and redirect your son with something else and don't engage in trying to talk through their long-ago (to a kid) encounter. If you're actually letting son go to a playground right now where he runs into this other kid--why?! Find another classmate whose family has pandemic distancing that matches your own, whatever that is, and arrange a distanced one on one playdate instead. [/quote]

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