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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you probably will get flamed for this, but it’s obvious that your heart is in the right place: you care about what is best for your children.

I grew up in a similar household, I had a stay at home mom that gave us healthy homemade snacks daily, and nightly home cooked dinners. The truth is, kids don’t value or appreciate these efforts. I remember when I went to overnight summer camp for the first time and came home so excited to “introduce” my parents to ranch; I couldn’t believe that something like ranch existed and they wouldn’t be interested in buying some for themselves. Similarly, when I went off to college I gained the quickest freshman 20 because my body simply was not used to food outside the vegetarian organic meals offered by my parents.

That said, as a parent myself I can sincerely appreciate their efforts, but I’ve found that moderation is what is most healthy, despite not being as healthy. While your post speaks nothing of weight, I’m thin, and personally eat a healthy, primarily raw diet - as a note, we do not keep ranch in the house! I don’t force the same standards upon my child; there is an expectation that we’ll eat a healthy well balanced dinner every night. However, I’m the first one to hand her a chewy bar if she’s acting hungry. Given my own upbringing, my thoughts are that it is much healthier to introduce processed “ssnacks” while supplementing with healthy meals.

Finally, in my option there’s nothing wrong with keeping a clean orderly home, or catering after school activities to each child’s interests. The sunscreen sounds crazy, but that is simply because I imagine constantly wiping “sunscreen prints” off surfaces. I think you need to realize that childhood is an introductory period for your child: if you so strictly control each aspect of their lives, it will be much harder for them to find their ways on their own. Just my two cents.[/quote]

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