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I too have a difficult husband and cannot work because of visa/pending green card issues.Your scenario is my nightmare.

I would be VERY concerned that you will need to act subserviently for decades to get help (financial or otherwise) from this person. You see what I mean? Cajoling, flattering, etc, because you're afraid to stick up for yourself and your child.

[b]On the other hand, I don't know what easy/cheap recourse you have if he decides to simply not pay child support. How likely is it, and what power do US courts have for such parents? [/b]

Actually, this is why I don't plan on divorcing yet. I have far more power in the relationship now while I stay than if I go.

Best of luck, OP. Few people realize how vulnerable trailing spouses are in such situations.

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Court ordered child support is withdrawn directly from his paycheck and deposited in her account. That’s the recourse she has if she stands up for herself. If she agrees to this under-the table BS she’s at his mercy every single F—ing month until her child is an adult.

Don’t be stupid, OP. Ask for what you’re entitled to under the guidelines — half of retirement and assets, ALL the  child support you’re entitled to. You might have several hard months where he’s pissed and annoyed at you but things will calm down and it will be your new normal. The alternative is to walk on eggshells and hope he decides to throw scraps your way for years to come. [/quote]

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