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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m 32 and want to settle down but I’m unsure if I want kids. It’s 50/50 for me. I don’t really know how to navigate dating with being unsure. Some either wants kids or don’t. No one that I have met is on the fence. How do you date and find a husband when your unsure of having kids? 
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I was basically you at 30. I was upfront about not being sure. I got engaged and asked if kids was a dealbreaker because I was still not sure and said I did not know if I would ever change my mind. He said okay. I thought all was fine until he pressured me to stop using the pill and i literally got pregnant from 1 time and during the act I was like I am never doing this again (and I had said no before but he would not stop pressuring me). Stayed miserable for many years and finally divorced after 10 years.

My advice is decide is to be upfront about not being sure and if you end up with someone who really wants kids and you still really are not sure, exit the relationship ASAP. Don't wait to see if you change your mind either way. You may date someone you decide you want kids with and it is moot. But never let a man pressure you after they "change their mine." It will be a disaster.[/quote]

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