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My husband sometimes acts like this. I call it scorched earth. He knows he's wrong, can't help himself, and goes into what-have-I-got-to-lose mode. Depending on my energy level, I either respond by making fun of him, which he hates, or if I'm really angry, by yelling back, and since I have more willpower and patience, I have the satisfaction of having the last word (which isn't important), and not feel abused (which is important).

If my husband were an otherwise kind and sensitive person, I wouldn't do this. He's been diagnosed with ADHD which he refuses to treat, and has some symptoms of Asperger's. Years of marriage have shown me that he's self-centered, has no empathy, and can go into fits of totally irrational rage, some of which he's directed at the kids. It's actually at those times that I yell back, because I don't want them to feel undefended. I even got him to apologize to our teen son last time, who he'd browbeaten into tears. 
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That sounds like hell, for your entire household. FFS, WHY are you still married to him? You may have willpower and patience, but this is going to do a number on your kids, growing up constantly walking on eggshells and landlines.[/quote]

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