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[quote=Anonymous]We have a family that we were pretty friendly with.  2 of my kids are good friends with 2 of their kids.  They are all teenagers.

Since the lockdown, we have not seen them, except the older kids have gotten together in a parking lot and talked a few times, maintaining plenty of distance.   The problem lies in the fact that the lockdown has brought out some issues that were really there before, but have been highlighted lately.   The oldest son has taken to sending out a missive daily to his friends and family (not me but my oldest son) about how the virus is just a conspiracy, the lockdown is ridiculous, the death rate is lower than the flu, our rights are being infringed on, etc.   He tried sending this to me but I shut it down quickly.  One of their goals is to convince everyone around them that it's ok to come over to their house and hang out and have dinner, etc, because they are the most extroverted people I have ever known and they don't like each other and now they are just stuck with their family or themselves.  If there were a word for pathological extrovert, it would fit them.  The mother, who I was friends with, has even admitted that she can't NOT be connected in person or through the phone with someone almost 24 hours a day (she sleeps with her phone on her pillow she said) because she needs that much interaction.

My issue is NOT that they have a different opinion than I do, different personalities, etc.  My issue is their "conversion" stance on everything.  Not just about the virus, but about everything.  Their 15 year old daughter, friends with my 15 year old son, is constantly berating him for not having an iPhone, for believing that social distancing is important, for everything.  I just don't think I can take their arrogance and overbearing nature anymore.    Not only are they constantly trying to jam something down our throats that THEY believe, but they are belittling when you don't agree.  I was called ignorant for questioning some facts they were throwing at me.    There is zero respect for a differing opinion about anything.

I haven't answered any texts lately except to be clear I didn't want to discuss it anymore, but they persist.  Of course this is so complicated because my kids are friends with her kids.

Would you think setting clearer boundaries would be the way to go, or completely ignoring this woman and her know it all kids?   How in the heck do I let my kids know I don't want to be friends with people like this, but still respect that they are friends with her kids, understanding that they are teenagers and not little kids?

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