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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Haircut. At 12, she should be totally responsible for her own hair. Why should you have to solve her dilemma for her? A haircut is a natural consequence.[/quote]

+1. Absolute ridiculous unless your child has special needs.[/quote]

NP. No need to be so rude, PPs. This is how kids learn. Sounds like this is the first time this has happened with OP's daughter. If it were a repeat problem, yeah, I'd cut it, but doing that this first time seems purely punitive. No need for that. She's 12, and at that age is responsible for her own self-care but that doesn't mean she's got it all down perfectly or could anticipate that daily buns would tangle her hair so badly.

OP, wide tooth comb and Kinky Curly or if you don't have that, the heaviest conditioner you have at hand. Let her sit and watch something fun on TV while you work on it. I wouldn't make her feel bad about it -- she's probably embarrassed as it is. I've been there with my own DD. Just tell her that going forward she needs to condition more and maybe you and she can work on her technique for putting up her bun because that is part of the problem, I think.

Order her a leave-in conditioner that she puts into her hair and combs through every day. Leave-in conditioners work much better than rinse-out ones for my teen DD with very thick, very wavy long hair. We know from experience that doing buns every day can be very tough on hair, too. Maybe encourage her to trim it or cut it if she wants but not as some kind of forced punishment.  If she wants to keep it long, have her explore other ways to keep it off her face like soft headbands, clips, etc. [/quote]

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