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[quote=Anonymous]Had DS at 26.5. IUD fail (and he wasn't expected to survive it) so not planned either.  Yes, sometimes I wish I was older.  DH was 29 so less so.  BUT most of my friends waited until they were in their 30s and they sometimes have regrets about that too. My best friend is 32 and her DH is 38.  They've been trying for 2 years.  Her DH is starting to rethink how many kids he wants because he doesn't want a newborn in his 40s.  I really don't think that there is a "perfect" time.  There are usually trade offs on both ends.

He's 7 now and I'm happier that I had him early than I was when he was a baby.  The fact that I had him young doesn't really come into play anymore   We are also very very fortunate that DS is easy going and we have lots of family help.  So DH and I have always been able to retain some of that fun part of our late 20s and early 30s.

So my advice is, there is rarely, if ever a time when it's perfectly right.   Don't base your decision off what your friends are doing or what is the social norm.  Do what's right for you.  If you want kids now, have them. If you're hesitant, wait.  Revisit it in a year.  You don't have to say "no I'm not going to have them until 30". Just say "I'm not ready yet. I feel like I'm too young.  Let's discuss this again next year"

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