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[quote=Anonymous]DS is 5 and 1/2.  He gets upset and angry easily, even over little things.  He will then either stomp off into another room and slams the door or else hits.  Most of the hitting is directed at DH if he is upset at him, but once in a while at me when he is upset.

When he does hit DH, DH will say don’t do that but let him do it a few times and then physically have to stop him.  DC is a boy so growing up they would play roughshed together sometimes, and I’m not sure if this is a contributing factor to his behavior more with DH.  Sometimes for fun, he will jump on DH but knows not to do it with me.

We have some cardboard boxes on the floor because DS is using it to build things - ice cream truck, ramp for toy cars, etc.. There’s a lot that has been sitting there for weeks unused so I asked DS which ones he doesn’t want so I can recycle it.  Hours later, DS went to his cardboard pile and saw something missing that he was using and wanted.  He got very angry and went over to DH and started hitting him because he thought DH threw it away.

I put him in time out and then had the conversation with him about communicating why he is angry and what is wrong so we can discuss it instead of hitting.  I had DS take 3 socioemotional zoom classes last month where they talked about feelings.  We then specifically worked on anger after that and discussed ways to calm down - deep breathing, shaking it out, dancing, coloring it out.  I saw progress with this when he blows up and is put in time out.  I would go up and say you are angry (low energy) and how do you move to high energy.  He would dance and then not be angry.  So his anger timeframe is shortened.  But in the heat of the moment, nothing has changed.

I need advice.  Is this just a phase at this age?  A control issue? Or something else?

If something else, what suggestions on how to handle this?  Do we need professional help or therapy?[/quote]

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