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[quote=Anonymous]As someone who was TTC for a long while and had to resort to IVF, I know that the process can (almost literally) drive you crazy.  That said, your friend's decision to cut you out of her life is unjustifiable and a really painful thing to do to you.

In terms of going forward, I think you have to assess the friendship in the broader sense.  Outside of the TTC issue, has she been a good friend - supportive of your goals, happy for your (other) successes, connected to your loved ones and friends, interested in you and your thoughts, etc.  If she isn't even a good or loyal friend outside this TTC/pregnancy situation, then, well, I think you already have your answer.  If she has been a good friend, I'd say give her another chance.  Go out to lunch, tell her gently in person or at least via phone (don't wuss out on this), let her take the lead in how much you talk about it.  But in turn, she has to deal with this and still be a good friend to you.  No silent treatment.  Otherwise, there's not much of a relationship to continue.

Why am I giving her one "pass"?  The IVF thing can just make otherwise even-keeled folks "lose it"... doesn't mean you have to take abuse & neglect, just something to keep in mind. [/quote]

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