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[quote=Anonymous]Married 15 years, my husband is 11 years older. We got married because we were madly in love, he was literally kissing fingers on my feet in bed forgetting his business flights schedule and missing planes....
About 4 years ago he started provoking conflicts out of nothing (could be minor things like me cooking baking for our son and filling the house with baking smell). Constantly poking me, for running water too much, wrinkled rug on the floor, etc.

Then, he would just move to his basement office. First it happened once a year, then he started doing it twice a year. In winter 2019, right after my birthday, again provoked an argument and went to live in the basement for a month. Went for a business trip for 1 month and silently returned to spousal bedroom when he returned. I started taking anti-depressants, and we seemed to live a peaceful year after he came back.Went for summer vacation and for winter skiing together.
However, exactly a year after, he's been living in the basement (since February by now). No sex, no kissing, barely talking to each other some days. Other days he seems like he was before, smiling, taking me and our son for a walk, doing plans to buy a house together etc. But he told me  once at the height of an argument that he no longer loved me.

He is 55, and I am starting thinking maybe he's having mental issues. I suspected a mistress, hired a car to track him but couldn't catch with anyone here. He leaves the house every morning, very briefly, as if to make a call. He travels a lot for work, and I recently found that a very attractive lady owns 10% shares in one of his companies in Europe (the lady generally doesn't possess skills like other shareholders/board members).

Is it a mistress across the ocean,  mid life crisis or I just "got" on his nerves somehow?  I feel like I am fighting with a ghost, so much instability in our lives out of sudden. And the most painful is that my husband is totally the same during the day, we have lunches, talk our son's school, how we spend time etc, and then he coldly says "good night" and goes back to the basement. He says, he gained psychological balance once he moved there and is not ready to come back yet. I am not sure what it all means.  He's not talking divorce at all (millions worth of assets to split, maybe that's the reason), taking a good care of the family financially.

We were such a wonderful family, always together, adorable son, traveling, many friends, entertaining at the house. Now it's like someone had died at hom....
I can't stop going through out trips photos over these years, and I just don't know why he destroyed 15 years of our marriage like that.

Did anyone have a similar situation? Is it really the end of the marriage? Can it be saved at all? [/quote]

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